Monday, March 7, 2011

The Honest Truth

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If you've followed my blog for awhile, you've probably noticed some changes.

I do my best to blog honestly because, let's face it, no one's life is perfect. I'm not interested in trying to pretend mine is. When I blog, it's because there are things that I truly want to remember later. I love being able to go back and compare Brayden's 3 month post to Brody's and that kind of thing.

So back to honesty.

Before I had Brayden I stayed at home. We were going through infertility treatments and I didn't have anyone to talk to about it besides my family. I lost contact with pretty much all of my friends. I feebly tried to make new ones, unsuccessfully.

After I had Brayden I began to realize the importance of friendships. I wanted to have a group of friends that I could go on playdates with or that Chris and I could hang out with as couples. I tried for a long time to find somewhere that I fit in, without a lot of success. I'm painfully shy and sometimes I think people may see that as being stuck up, which is really the last thing I am if you get to know me.

Now, 2 years later, finding mom friends and groups is one of the questions I get asked about the most.

I know there are a lot of you out there who are in the same position I was in. Maybe you've found a group but are having a hard time making friends within that group. Or maybe you don't even know how to begin finding friends. Maybe you're painfully shy like me. =)

My first piece of advice would be to find a "mom's group" - something like MOPS. If shyness is your issue I know you are reading this thinking "there is no way...". Trust me. GO! Give it a try. MOPS is really designed for people like us - connecting you with other moms who are in a similar stage of life.

I know there are plenty of other mom connection groups and meet up groups, so find one and try it. Once you start going, get to know some of the women on a deeper than surface level way. Set up playdates or lunches. Really get to know them!

Setup a playgroup! I know playgroups are "for the kids" but really they are as much for me and my sanity! Getting together once a week or once every other week with other moms - having adult conversation - that is priceless.

Lastly, if you're reading this you probably blog. I've met a lot of great girls in my area through blogging and some of them are my closest friends! Schedule a meet up for local mom bloggers in your area!

What are your tips for making new friends? Share them in the comments!
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